092 | Transformation Through The Combination of Energy Coaching + Microdosing Psychedelics (The Journey 003)
“When I started coaching, I was focused on changing what to do. Now I can see that it’s about changing how to BE! I shifted my focus to my own energy, versus trying to fix things and do things. I didn’t even know was an option before coaching.”
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You won’t believe that today’s guest is in her mid 20s. Nadya, a former coaching client of mine, has experienced a beautiful and profound opening to life, herself and the journey of transformation. In this episode, she shares the vulnerable and personal details of what it took for her to start taking ownership of her life.
She shares so much with us about how in just a few months, the combination of coaching and microdosing helped her start living life in the present moment and through her authentic self. She shares the work she did to improve relationships, find grace for herself as a new mother, and release the fear of judgement. Nadya has so much wisdom to share, sure to inspire anyone on the path of personal transformation.
Topics Covered:
Nadya’s upbringing as a child of teen parents & an incarcerated father
The transition into motherhood that led Nadya to seek out coaching
How Nadya shifted from the energy of force to flow and being
Nadya’s fun but challenging introduction into the world of psychedelics
Becoming present and empowering her relationship with time
Presence in the moment as a spiritual path
Releasing the fear of judgement from others
Setting boundaries for deeper & genuine relationships
Navigating conflict to build rather than destroy relationships
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About Nadya Faith:
Nadya is a 25-year-old mom to a sweet two-year-old boy. She has her degree in forensic psychology and is a former substance abuse counselor and an aspiring life coach. In her free time, she enjoys being at the beach, baking, playing volleyball, going on psychedelic journeys and spending time with her family. Nadya was born in Massachusetts to two teenage parents and moved to the south Bronx for early childhood. She then moved back to a small town in Massachusetts to be raised by her grandmother until the age of 13 when she moved to Queens, New York with her mother. At 21, Nadya moved to California, where she had her first experience with LSD in her home with her partner the day after arriving. This experience changed the trajectory of her life, opening her eyes to the beauty of the limitless possibilities. Ever since then, Nadya has been passionately learning about how we can work with psychedelics to enjoy our lives to the fullest.
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Look no further! Along with being the host of the Modern Psychedelics Podcast, Lana is a 3x certified professional coach who works with people on the psychedelic path.
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Lana Pribic: [00:00:00] Hello everyone. And welcome back to another episode of the journey series. This is the third episode in the series. And this is a series where I interview some of my past coaching clients that I worked with to share their journeys of growth and transformation because they're so inspiring and I feel selfish keeping them to myself.
So today I have the wonderful and very inspiring Nadia. Welcome to the show, Nadia.
Nadya Rivera: Hi, thank you.
Lana Pribic: You were just saying that you love listening to the show and that you're so excited to be on today Oh,
Nadya Rivera: listening since, I think, 2021. That's
pretty early on. Yeah.
I've been listening for a while.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. I know our DMs on Instagram go pretty far back. So yeah, thank you for that. And we work together in my one on one coaching program in 2023, about a year ago from April to July, and I just have to say, you were beautiful to work with and your transformation was [00:01:00] just wow, so wonderful to witness and you really embraced such a high level of consciousness and living at the highest level of consciousness.
Energy and with such an open heart. And I'm especially reminded about how you were able to transform some of your relationships and really start showing up in unconditional love rather than conditional love. And I remember your self confidence increased and your trust in yourself and your journey and your spirituality increased so much.
So I'm so excited to share a little bit more about that. That journey with our listeners today. So before we dive into the details, please introduce yourself to the audience and include anything that you feel would help listeners understand you, anything from your cultural background, your upbringing, anything you'd like.
Nadya Rivera: Okay hi everyone. My name is Nadia. I'm 25. I'm a mom to a two year old. So I was born in [00:02:00] Massachusetts to two teen parents. So my mom was actually only 18 when she had me. And my dad was, I think, 19. So I grew up there until I think I was about 1, and then I moved to the South Bronx with my dad's family. So that was a pretty big shift. Of course I was really little, but I still remember a lot of it. And it was a one bedroom apartment and it was me. My mom, two of my aunts, and my grandma. I remember me and my mom used to have a bed in the kitchen. It was like a huge kitchen, and we had half of it like a bedroom, the other half a kitchen.
My aunt had a bed in the hallway, there was a bed in the living room, two beds in the bedroom. So it was a lot of us. And I lived there until I was about, I think four? And my mom at the time, she, since being so young, I think if I was four, she was probably about twenty two. And at that time, her and my dad split up. She was having a pretty hard time raising [00:03:00] me. So then, I actually went back to Massachusetts to live with my grandmother. And that was another huge shift because my grandma lives in a really small town in the mountains. I think there's probably Maybe a thousand people in the town. So it was like going from New York City in the Bronx to, the town is called Culreen. It was different. And so I started school there. Yeah, I really liked growing up there because there was so much nature around me. And all my friends lived pretty close, so we were always outside, there was always stuff to do. Like we would go skiing, sledding a lot of sports, I had a pretty good childhood living there, and of course I was living with my grandmother too, so she spoiled me making cookies all the time. Yeah, just like still being a grandma, when I was 14, I went back to live with my mom, and this time I moved back to New York City, but it was in Queens. So that's where [00:04:00] I spent the rest of my Like you. Another big part of my childhood that's a little bit hard to talk about but pretty relevant is that my dad was in jail for a lot of it. So he, I think the first time he went to jail was four. And he got out four years later, and then went back in, and then got out, and went back in, and he's out now, and has been out since I was twelve. But because of that, it was really hard for us to build a relationship. The times that I would see him growing up was Just, it was hard to connect in a setting like that. If you can imagine going into a prison as a kid and like seeing everybody in these uniforms and really serious then when we finally go through all these procedures like hours of security checks, waiting, paperwork, and then we finally get in and we can't even like we could give hugs but we have to sit so far apart you can't really do anything, [00:05:00] you can talk and it's only like an hour. And the jail was like, seven hours from us, so it was a pretty far drive. So I would say that the combination of having teenage parents and then one of them being incarcerated it just really complicated my life in a lot of ways that I thought would go away when I became an adult, but they actually didn't. I think I left off when I moved back to New York, when I was, 14, and I went to high school there and I went to college there, and I graduated with my Bachelor's in Psychology, cause that's always been something I'm really interested in. I got a degree in Forensic Psychology. And at the age of 21 I got married. I moved to California to San Diego County, and I had a lot of fun there. We spent Two years living there, then we had my son, Xavier, I was 23 at the time. And after that, [00:06:00] I moved back to Massachusetts and now I'm living in Connecticut. So I've been moving around a lot.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. You've been around a lot of different places and homes, and I can only imagine the impact that's had on your journey.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, I'm like dying for some stability.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Where were you at when you reached out to me and you were seeking out coaching? Can you tell us a little bit about where you were at and what you were noticing in your life that you wanted to be different, but you couldn't quite get there on your own?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah. I reached out to you, I think we said it was March of last year. I remember the night I like submit the application because I was just like going back and forth on it. I was like, I really have been wanting to do this and there's a part of me that's oh maybe we should just wait a little bit.
And I was like, why? But leading up to that like I said, I had Xavier in December of 2022. And that was another [00:07:00] huge change for me. I know there's some other mom listeners out there and I know that they know from being you to being a mom is like a huge, it's just a whole new world. And and I had been dealing with a lot of postpartum depression too. I would say, when I reached out to you, I would say it was at the tail end of it. It was like, lingering a little bit, it's effects. But, during the year prior to that, it was getting pretty bad. And that's actually why I left California, was to just go back home and just spend some time with my family and get a little bit of help. And during that time, I realized that I hit this rock bottom, that I just felt like I had nothing, and I The things that I was doing wasn't working, and I remember being in the room with my son and he was like, not even a year yet. And I just felt so bad because I was like, how am I going to provide for you and give you a good life if [00:08:00] I don't have this together right now? So that kind of sparked this inspiration inside me to start changing and doing things more intentionally. Just living a life that I want to live. And so yeah, I had been just looking into like, just getting started on this journey. And I think it was probably a couple months past and that's when I decided that I wanted to do life coaching because it's something that had been on my radar for about the last year. And so I thought that was just the perfect time to start. And I was like, going into it, I was hoping that it would. Help me set a fresh foundation for my life moving
forward.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. You mentioned that you felt like you didn't have it together. What did you feel like you didn't have together at the time?
Nadya Rivera: Everything. Yeah. I just felt like I had nothing, like physically and like mentally. I was just drained, like I was like so tired [00:09:00] and just so weighed down.
Lana Pribic: So how did you know it was coaching that you wanted to try out and not something else?
Nadya Rivera: I've tried therapy before. When I was in college, they had a free counseling program. So I did that for a year, and it helped me a lot at the time. It helped me deal with a lot of the the environments that I was living in and the relationships that I was having. It helped with those type of things that were happening right now.
But I didn't know coaching was a thing. So when I did hear about you talk about it, and just listening to this podcast, listening to who you are, it sounded like that could take it to just another level.
Lana Pribic: So it sounds like it was something that was a bit of an intuitive, instinctual feeling that this was what you wanted to go towards.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah.
Lana Pribic: Yeah, it doesn't sound like there was much logic involved. So I remember when we were working together, you were, you often said wow, this is so different than I expected.
This is so [00:10:00] different than what I thought it would be like, which happens a lot of times when I'm working with clients one on one. What was it about coaching that really, surprised you and that you found, yeah, that you just found surprising. Mm hmm.
Nadya Rivera: Um, this
Is the whole process um, it really did, I remember it catching me way off guard. And I was just looking through my journal a couple days ago, and one of the things that stuck out to me is that I wrote down, like, when I went into coaching I was focused on changing what to do, and now I can see that it's about changing how to be. That shift in focus to just my own energy, versus trying to fix things and do things, I think that's mainly what I do. Didn't even know was an option before coaching. Yeah.
Lana Pribic: early because some Traditional coaching is all about taking action [00:11:00] and doing the things with core energy coaching, which is what we did together. It's more about aligning with who you truly are, your true self, your true state of being.
And then from that place, when that energetic shift happens, then we worry about the doing and the doing kind of just falls into the place and the actions just fall into place. But first we really want to get to the core of who we are and what we are. We want, and as you learned, coaching is such an amazing place to get really real with yourself and discover that.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah. Yeah, like you said if you try to approach it with action first, it's just feels so forceful. I have to do this right now. I have to think of a way to fix this, but you just can't.
Or sometimes you can, but it's still gonna take a lot more out of you than sitting into yourself and focusing on. Being you. And yeah, it does come more naturally.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Yeah. That's exactly right. When we're really [00:12:00] connected to who we are and what we want, things just flow and are easy and we're not coming from force. And of course we can get things done by force from that catabolic energy that we talked about. But, The long term results are not sustainable and it really is not very fulfilling.
. I think that's a really great headline of what the coaching experience can be like. And because this is a podcast called modern psychedelics, I have to ask you what is your practice with medicine, with psychedelics? I know we did a round of micro dosing when we were coaching together, but yeah.
Do you want to share a little bit about that?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, of course. My first experience with psychedelics was the day after I moved to California. I think that I left New York just completely just ready to just Start a whole new life. So we, I got there and we already had an apartment set up. We didn't even unpack yet. And I remember I had a job interview during the day. And then that night my husband was like, Okay we're gonna [00:13:00] do this. And we had a two bedroom apartment. So we set up one of the bedrooms with a lot of posters and lights. And a record player. Music and then I took one tab of acid and I was a little nervous and I think he was really nervous too. And , he's like, are you okay? Are you feeling anything yet? And I remember just like, like, no, no, not yet. Until I looked at the rug and that rug was like, I'm like pulsing to the beat of the music. I was like, wow. And so that was just a really fun introduction. It, I didn't have any intention going into it because I just didn't really know like anything about it. But at the same time after that, I remember waking up the next morning like, with this really refreshed feeling. And my head felt so clear, and I remember just the thing that stood out to me the most from that first trip was like, that there's just so much [00:14:00] more to life than I ever thought. And that yeah, I started to fall like really in love with the trees after that. Cause they would bring me back to that place in a way. And during that time it was just me and him living in the apartment together. And we were what like 21 at the time. We both had our jobs, but then on the weekends sometimes we would do little trips in our, we called it our tea room.
So I would say we did like maybe four throughout the next year. And then yeah, the following year I got pregnant with my son but before, before that, I had tried, psilocybin mushrooms. That was a really interesting experience too. It was for my birthday one year. We got an Airbnb in San Diego. And yeah, it was an easy experience. And it just opened my eyes to that, too, that this is, psychedelics are fun, but they're not just fun. So [00:15:00] that's when I learned about that. But I was still interested because I did get a lot of the, out of that I experienced, but it was really rough, but I was really grateful for the experience still. So then I got interested in microdosing because as a mom I don't feel comfortable yet to go on these full trips because I feel like I need to be able to be like present with my son whenever. Even if we're not physically together like I still don't feel comfortable yet like going off somewhere so that's when I started to get interested in micro dosing because I was like craving that feeling of being refreshed and Just more open and learning new things so The first time I ever tried micro dosing was when we were coaching together
Lana Pribic: Yeah. And how did you find that the coaching plus micro dosing worked for you together? Yeah.
Nadya Rivera: I was just thinking about that because I've been microdosing [00:16:00] again during the last month and it's still an amazing experience, but the combination of microdosing and coaching is you can just, it just enhances the experience of both in a lot of ways.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. That's so well said. And. When we say we're doing micro dosing and coaching at the same time, we're not doing like micro dosing coaching, so it's not like you show up to a session and we're talking about you micro dosing and your doses and things like that. It's you're doing your micro dosing protocol.
I'm sure we might touch on it a little bit, but what we're really doing in the session is going micro dosing. Deep into that state of being that state of who you truly are and aligning your life with that. So the micro dosing is really able to open you up a little bit more and then also give you the energy, the motivation, the excitement to really follow through with what we talk about in coaching.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, exactly.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Yeah. [00:17:00] And one of the first things that we worked on, if you remember, was empowering your relationship with time. And you really had this intention to work on living in the moment and being more present in your life before we started working together. Can you tell us a little bit about why that was important for you to work on and what your relationship with that is like now compared to before?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah. I was just trying to think what was pushing me to want to work on that and I can't remember.
Lana Pribic: Yeah so I have some notes here. You so You had this feeling that you didn't have enough time in the day to do everything that you wanted to do and that you had to have everything perfectly planned out. There was the sense of mom guilt making sure that you kind of have to know everything that's going on and that everything's planned out so that you don't make a mistake and that you're doing things the right way is that [00:18:00] it's hard to remember sometimes how we were when we're not like that anymore.
Is that. ringing a bell.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, I remember that part. Yeah, I remember feeling so overwhelmed being a mom. And, yeah. It is a huge shift, because especially when your baby is young, you have to put yourself aside a lot. And of course, people tell you like, oh, you need to take care of yourself, you need to take care of yourself, but sometimes, it would just feel like, when? When do you want me to take care of myself? I can't even shower. I can't even I mean I can shower, but I can't even shower without son. Or some days I feel like I couldn't have time to eat, and I guess I learned through coaching that it wasn't that I didn't have time, cause I remember us talking and you saying it's true we all have the same 24 hours in a day, but it's just like, how do we use them? And so that really helped me
too. [00:19:00]
Lana Pribic: Yeah, and I remember you had this insight around just rooting down into the present moment. And remembering that the only time that is real is now and the only time that we can take action is now and that staying in the present moment is therefore the most powerful. Place that we can be and where we can have the most impact.
How have these insights changed how you spend your time and how you even just relate to managing your time as a mom?
Nadya Rivera: They changed everything for me. It gives me that that feeling of relief, like I can breathe, I have time, it's okay, there's time for the things that I want to do, it's okay. And spending more time in the present makes me feel like I have even more time. Because when I spend time in the present, it feels like time slows down. That's been, like, my life hack lately. If I start to feel like I'm [00:20:00] rushing through my day, or I'm like worried that there's not enough time, I know that it's time for me to come back.
Lana Pribic: that's amazing to hear that you've been able to maintain your connection to these insights because they are really profound. Spiritual teachers of all types teach about the power of the present moment. Can you talk to us a little bit about Your spiritual path and your spirituality. Cause I remember that being present peace was huge for your sense of spirituality.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, that was definitely like a breakthrough for me. When I moved back in with my mom, she, a couple years before that, she started going to a church, like a Christian church. But I didn't grow up in that religion, but since she had converted when I moved in with her, then I went to a Christian school. And that was really the only form of spirituality that I knew. And of course was taught that anything outside of that [00:21:00] is not welcome, because that's wrong. So for I would say like 6 years, that was my only form of spirituality. No actually longer than that, like 14 to 22 I would say. And then at first I did really like going to church, it gave me that feeling of a full heart. Which is really important for me. But there was a lot of contradictions that I would hear and there was just a lot of parts about going and a lot of things I experienced that didn't really feel too aligned with who I am. But I was still like staying in the belief out of fear. Because I was afraid to go to hell. So I would still not partake in my life fully because of this belief that I was holding. Of course, doing psychedelics didn't align with that belief, but I did it anyways. But I think that [00:22:00] also helped me to Start releasing this fear and realize that it's okay if I want to explore who I am and what my beliefs are. And so that's when I, around like 22, I just began like being more open but I still hadn't completely let go of the fear either. And it was around the time that it hit that rock bottom that I was just talking about before we started coaching that I was really able to release that because after I hit that rock bottom after that night in that room and I just was ready to start changing everything I realized that I had to let go of that fear because it was like one, I either had to step into that or step out because staying right there like Staying there out of fear, it wasn't serving me at all, and it was actually hurting me, but I knew that I still needed to seek some sort of spiritual connection, because I know that's important to me. [00:23:00] And yeah, when we were talking that one day, and you brought my attention to the point that Now is the only time, and if we're looking for the spiritual connection, we have to come here to the now. That helped me so much, cause it, it's not like it was teaching me something specific, but it was helping me get to a place where I can explore it on my own. And so that's gonna be with me forever. And that feels really good, too.
Lana Pribic: I can see that by the smile on your face that that just resonates, right?
Nadya Rivera: Mhm.
Lana Pribic: Speaking of fears, fears are something that we spend a lot of time looking at in the coaching space, right? We look at our fears. We look at how they might not be true, how they might not be serving us, how they might be holding us back.
And we look for a different [00:24:00] story that feels more empowering to release those fears. What are some of the fears that you remember working through during coaching?
Nadya Rivera: The fear of judgment, for sure. Yeah, that was probably the biggest one.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Tell us more about that. Cause there's, there was some self judgment,
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Can you tell us a little bit more about that?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah think that was something we spoke about pretty early on too because it was invasive to my life, it feels like this fear of judgment and fear of judgment from others and so much judgment coming from myself. Yeah. Being able to change the belief that what others think about me is actually a reflection of them, and vice versa. Holding on to that belief has helped me reduce my judgments a lot, and by reducing my judgments, I feel so much more free in this life, because I feel like [00:25:00] I can do whatever I want, I can be whoever I want, and I don't have to worry. I don't have to like, carry that worry anymore.
Lana Pribic: So you've integrated this new belief system that what others think of me is more a reflection of them than it is of me. And what I think of others is more of a reflection of me than it is of them, right? Kind of seeing the world through our own lens and our own projections is really empowering.
You've been able to integrate that. Right through coaching these days, if, and when any judgment towards yourself or others comes up, how do you deal with that using those tools?
Nadya Rivera: When I catch myself judging others I start to feel like, personally offended. I'm like, oh, you think that about yourself? And it's good because it holds me accountable so that I'm not judging other people. Because I actually want to be a life coach too. And I feel like letting go of this judgment is, that's a huge part.
You can't do this [00:26:00] type of work and judge people.
Lana Pribic: Certainly not.
Nadya Rivera: So, that Has held me accountable to stop judging others as much and when I do just become more aware of it and also then turn it back on myself and be like why do we feel like that? It's hard to tell like when people are judging you for sure, but a lot of times I catch myself worrying And I still have this like worry.
It's more of an anxious feeling Maybe when i'm out in a public space or somewhere. I feel like i'm going to get more attention than I want but It's a lot easier to move through Because i'm not so focused on What their judgments mean. Now I'm just focused on moving that feeling out of my body.
Because I understand I can't stop myself from worrying. But, I don't have to let it determine how I'm going to act or how I'm going to feel. Yeah.
Lana Pribic: That's incredible. And anyone who wants to [00:27:00] become a life coach, it's so important to go through life coaching yourself so that you can actually understand the power of this work and to do the work yourself because we can only take our clients as far and as deep as we have gone ourselves and Deanne Adamson does such a good job of talking about this in the episode I did with her.
I think it's episode 82 where she talks about that for anyone who out there who's also interested like Nadia in becoming a coach. And so with this Release of judgment and self judgment. And of course, we all have judgments. We all have judgments, all of us all the time, no matter how much work we've done, it's just something that we're going to continue to face.
But hopefully over time, the amount of time that we spend in judgment, and the amount of time that we are judging decreases with this work. So as you are more aware of your own judgments towards yourself and others, and as you are taking your power back. [00:28:00] When you are judging and turning inwards and using it as a, as an opportunity to reflect on yourself and to do work on yourself, how has your life changed as a result?
Like what's different? Why even bother working on being less judgmental?
Nadya Rivera: you should definitely bother on working
Being less judgmental. It changes a lot too. Because then I think if, first if you're judging a lot of people, I think that you feel like a lot of people are judging you, just as a response. And if you're caring about what people think of you, then it just stops you from pursuing a lot of the things that you really want to pursue, the things that are gonna fulfill your life. At least that's the case for me. Because like I am, I'm really interested now, especially in psychedelic life coaching, and [00:29:00] it feels really exciting for me to even know that's a possibility and explore that. But before, I think that fear of judgment, if I maybe heard of the opportunity last year before releasing this fear of judgment, I could have just shut that out no, that's not for me.
Yeah.
Lana Pribic: right? Judgment is very catabolic. So for people listening, catabolic energy is destructive and draining and when we are in judgment, we are experiencing catabolic energy and when we are experiencing that, it's really hard for us to think creatively, solve problems, see solutions, tap into love, tap into acceptance, tap into peace.
Judgment is something that drains our energy and it keeps us from really going out into the world and doing what we want to do. you agree? Have you seen that to be true in your own life?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, I definitely agree that judgment does bring a [00:30:00] lot of that catabolic energy in and it is really hard to be you when you're experiencing that catabolic energy.
Lana Pribic: Absolutely. Yeah. So you've done such a great job of releasing the judgment and Leaning into your authenticity. What did you learn about who you truly are, who you authentically are throughout the coaching process?
Nadya Rivera: because of my upbringing, because I didn't live with my parents, because I was moving around, I didn't even touch into all the places that we moved in between there. So having to live with people who are not your parents, and be in other people's houses a lot, I noticed that it made me feel like I had to be really quiet, really good, behaved, because like, , there's just not that comfortability. [00:31:00] So that's how I spend a lot of time going through my life as the quiet, good girl who does things that she's supposed to do and doesn't disrupt anything or make anybody upset. And, yeah, I learned that's not really who I am. I have my own beliefs, I have my own opinions that don't always match what other people think, and I have a way of going about my life that isn't probably what people think I should be doing. But I don't really feel bad about that anymore. And I feel like more free to explore that and more open to whatever it looks like.
Lana Pribic: Speaking of other people, your relationships, with first of all yourself, but also with your husband, your family, I think it really. evolved in such a beautiful way during those months that [00:32:00] I was witnessing your process. Just looking back, right? How were you standing in your own way of having the relationships that you really desired?
What were some of those blocks in your way?
Nadya Rivera: Definitely setting boundaries with people was a huge block because my Lack of ability to set boundaries. It gave me this built up resentment towards a lot of people. Because people would be crossing my boundaries, but at the end of the day that's on me to set those boundaries. So I'd find myself like isolating and isolating because I'm like mad at them and mad at them and just all tense. But it's because I wasn't voicing my need. And once I started really applying that and started setting boundaries and just doing it in the moment when things were happening and I was like, realizing, okay, I'm not actually okay with the way that you're treating me right now or the way that things are [00:33:00] going. So starting to address those has helped me develop really just a lot more genuine relationships. With my family, with my husband
Since they're more genuine, they can go a lot deeper.
Lana Pribic: yeah. And that's also because you're more genuine with yourself. You're more in tune with who you genuinely are, and you can show up in that way and actually give people an opportunity to respond to you, not this, ego shell of you that was created by society and your upbringing and parents or whatever.
It's this is who I truly am. And when we really show up as who we truly are in relationships, that changes relationships, right? For better or for worse.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. What did you learn about communication and working through conflict?
Nadya Rivera: Oh, that was a huge one. The time that I left California and moved back to spend time with my family, Another huge reason is because dealing with postpartum and a new baby, you're not getting a [00:34:00] lot of sleep in the house, and things are really chaotic, and I think that's pretty typical for new parents. But I think our lack of ability to approach conflicts in a way that was gonna help us build a better relationship was the thing that was destroying our relationship. So during that time that I moved over here, we also took it as a break and separated for a little bit. And eventually we realized that it was just the built up tension that caused that separation. But when you don't know how to resolve conflicts, conflicts still come up no matter if the tensions From that's been released, we would still have conflicts come up. So I realized that if I do want this marriage to work, which I do that's something I have to learn. And I think the main thing I took out of that coaching session was that the conflicts are gonna come up [00:35:00] And instead of me viewing them as an attack on myself and uh, an argument and a fight, I started viewing them as ways for my husband and I to synergize and become just one in this relationship. Now when we have these conflicts, of course I still get mad and it's still tense. But it doesn't escalate nearly as far as it used to. It doesn't take as much energy out of either one of us as it used to, because now we're not fighting against each other, we're just viewing it as an opportunity to get to the relationship that we want.
Lana Pribic: Wow, that's amazing. So I think what's really important to highlight here is that when we're in a relationship and things aren't going the way that we want, it's Default for most of us, most of the time to say they're doing this wrong and they need to change this and I just wish [00:36:00] that they would, do this differently and we blame the other person when we actually start to do the work ourselves, though, and we take our own power back and we start to take responsibility and we start to hold ourselves accountable and we start to really take.
the conflict as an opportunity for growth. We. Are able to show up differently in that relationship. And because we are showing up differently, we're giving the other person an opportunity to respond differently. So I don't know if your husband was doing any of his own work at the time or anything like that, but can you talk to us a little bit about just how you putting the time, energy, and resources into doing the work on yourself helped the relationship and the unit that is you and your husband.
Nadya Rivera: I think that us having a family, I noticed that my energy will a lot of times set the tone for their energy too when we're in the house. And, so now [00:37:00] that I've learned these things, and especially about conflict it, it just really helps keep the energy a lot more peaceful in the house, which is what was really important to me.
Lana Pribic: And what did you notice when you went back to your husband and, started talking about things with some of these new tools, how was he able to show up for you?
Nadya Rivera: I think he was learning too, because I would tell him like, Oh, I had my session today this is what I learned share these different perspectives with him, and I think us both applying them, made a big difference.
Lana Pribic: Oh, that's amazing that he was open to that.
Nadya Rivera: Yeah.
Awesome. So one other thing I would really love to talk to you about I guess it has to do with the spiritual connection. Slice of the pie in the wheel of life, let's say we spent a lot of time talking about that level six energy, that unconditional love, right?
Lana Pribic: That flow state, that connection to everyone and everything around [00:38:00] us. you tell us about your experience learning how to tap into unconditional love and what that has done for yourself and for your relationships?
Nadya Rivera: Being Able to tap into that source of unconditional love, it helps me to care for the people that I love a lot more. Because the love isn't coming from a place of do you deserve this? What do you, like, how much are you loving me? It's coming from a place of I have this this love inside of me for you. And I'm gonna give it to you.
Lana Pribic: . I remember one of the really beautiful insights you had on that topic was the more that I share love, the more I will receive it. And the more I hold back from giving love, the more I hold myself back from receiving it. What do you think of that today?
Nadya Rivera: I always think about that actually when my husband and I have conflicts. And [00:39:00] the times where I'm being extra stubborn Oh the fight's over, but maybe I'm still mad. And then I think about that do I really want to go through the rest of this day feeling bitter, or Could I put out a little bit of love and see, what happens? And every time that makes the day so much better.
And the same with like my relationships with my family too. Since I spent like a huge part of my childhood growing up with my grandma and now I'm watching her get older. I feel like I want to really appreciate the time that I spend with her. Sourcing this love for her from that place, too, it makes me feel like, I that I'm just not gonna regret the time that I spent with her.
Lana Pribic: Beautiful. What would you say is the biggest takeaway for you around your energy?
Nadya Rivera: I think I remember our last session coaching, and I was [00:40:00] feeling a little worried about I was really happy about the growth that I'd experienced, and I was a little worried that oh, what if I start to lose touch with myself again, or what if I can't continue growing. And we talked about the having the ability to always ground yourself and check in, and so that's been my biggest takeaway with my energy, is that I Like, no matter where I am or what's going on, it doesn't matter, I have this ability to ground myself now, and come into my own energy.
And because I've done this work, that has helped me be more authentic, and more genuine, and less judgmental of myself, my energy feels more comfortable to be in. So I really like spending this time with myself and it actually enhances my life a lot because when I have [00:41:00] this ability now to ground myself in who I am less things have an impact on me.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Yeah. That's foundational. Beautiful. So it's been about nine months or so since we wrapped up. How has life been? Like what's been going on? Tell us how things have been unfolding for you. Have you been able to continue learning and growing?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, for sure. I read books and watch videos and Journal and do that type of stuff. I've definitely continued my journey. During that time, my husband and I moved back in together. Xavier turned two. He just actually started going to daycare. And I started going back to work. So, That was a pretty big transition that all of this work, it really helped me get through.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Amazing. Yeah. We didn't even get to [00:42:00] touch on the career stuff that we worked on and the life path stuff that we worked on. What do you have going on that you're like really excited about right now? What's really lighting you up and alive for you?
Nadya Rivera: I guess that it's like springtime. That's been like the highlight of my life right now. I've, I'm really excited to start spending more time outside and just enjoying my life.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Yeah. You love nature and being outside. I
Nadya Rivera: And Yeah.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So what would you say to people listening who are considering starting life coaching as a compliment to being on this path of medicine, psychedelics, consciousness expansion? What would you say to them?
Nadya Rivera: I would say that if If you feel drawn to it in any way, don't even second guess yourself, just go for it because the things that you're going to get out of it [00:43:00] are just like, so valuable. There are things that are going to help you for the rest of your life. There are things that nobody can ever take away from you. And there are things that you can continue to build and grow on. And, yeah, so if you're interested in it, I say go for it.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Yeah. It's a great way to put it right. It's like building blocks, foundational brain building blocks for how to experience the world and how to experience life and be yourself in the world beautifully said.
I didn't realize you're only 25 years old, which is amazing that you're doing this type of work at, what I perceive to be so young.
How do you feel that this experience and just all the work that you're [00:44:00] doing at such a young age is like setting you up for the future?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, I feel so happy to be able to do this type of work at this age so that I can Start building my life really intentionally. And, I feel like it's, it really did help me set a foundation at such a young age that I'm able to now build off of and create this life that I feel fulfilled by and I feel happy to wake up to everyday and just excited to live.
And I feel
really grateful to get that at such a young age because I know that this time can be really challenging for a lot of people. people because it's like a it's like another turning point. Like turning 25 you feel like you're entering like another quarter of your life and you're not really like a teenager anymore.
You're not that young of an adult. You're starting to enter your real adulthood. So to be able to have these new perspectives moving [00:45:00] forward, It's probably changed the trajectory of my life in a lot of ways.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Yeah. Beautifully said it's an amazing opportunity to do it at such a young age. When I was 25 I was definitely just going around and getting drunk So it's amazing that you're doing this Is there any way that people can find you or get in touch with you? Or do you prefer to keep a low profile?
Nadya Rivera: Yeah, I'm looking for new friends. So my Instagram is Nadia, N A D Y A underscore, no, yeah,
underscore.
Lana Pribic: Perfect. I'll link
Nadya Rivera: underscore faith.
Lana Pribic: I'll link that for people in the show notes. Any last words of wisdom or anything that you want to share before we let you go today?
Nadya Rivera: I'm just really grateful for the experience to be here and share my experience with everybody who's listening. And yeah, I hope that some of the things that I shared maybe resonate with other people who are [00:46:00] out there listening.
Lana Pribic: Yeah. Perfect. Thank you so much for taking the time to share with us today. And yeah, just be vulnerable and open. Obviously, coaching conversations are confidential and private and, only you and I are aware of what happens in them. So you being open. willing to share in this way is just so useful to help people understand what this modality can really do and how it can help to improve our lives.
So thank you for that.
Nadya Rivera: Thank you for having me.
Lana Pribic: Amazing. Thank you everyone for listening and we'll see you in the next episode.
